Sin of dating in islam
In fact, the Prophet (sws) has told us that those who follow the right path will always be ‘different’ or ‘strange’ to the mainstream.In one beautiful hadith, the Prophet (sws) says: (Ahmad) Secondly, you state the concern of getting to know someone for marriage.
Starting with a verse from Quran: This day [all] good foods have been made lawful, and the food of those who were given the Scripture is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them. It would be better if you tell them this directly, or give them hints about that, so that they would know about your intentions.
Young people can read one another’s profiles, exchange a few anonymous messages through the matrimonial service’s messaging system, then if they find each other interesting they can take it offline and contact each other’s families. And every major Islamic conference should include such an event. I’ve read about an Imam in New York who does that quite successfully.
We seem to have these two extremes – either an arranged marriage between cousins, which is generally unhealthy and seems to end in misery more often than not, or a free-for-all where young people must fend and seek for themselves, and often fall into sin.
The irony in this is that dating does not increase marital success.
In fact, the United States is a culture where dating is the norm.